This is not meant to be a cute writing nor is it meant to be a funny writing. This is written with a bit of frustration and represents feelings from the bottom of my heart concerning the current state of affairs in my culture.
This writing has MY name on it and therefore it represents what I think. Even though after years of reflection I do believe it best represents the heart of Christ. I do not write as a representative of all churches or any church. So here goes:
I am tired of being labeled as a hate-monger because I believe homosexuality is a sin. I don’t hate you. I don’t think I am better than you. In fact you and me have this in common – we both are sinners in need of a Savior.
To those who are gay or lesbian let me state clearly again that I do not hate you. I do not dislike you. Some of you are my friends, some acquaintances, some are even family members of mine and some of you were school classmates. I care deeply for you as individuals. There are some of you who may read this that I do not know. As I write this letter be aware that even though you and I will not agree on everything, we can still care for each other. Love, concern and care can exist in the midst of disagreement.
It is true that many who call themselves Christian need to get their lives together. Even further, it is a damnable shame that some church leaders push for the sanctity of marriage yet the divorce rate in their churches are the same as those outside the church.
Know this that I will NOT cease my criticism of “Christians” who on the one hand want to “defend the sanctity of marriage” yet on the other hand are cheating on their spouse, divorcing their wives or secretly having an affair with pornography. People who call themselves Christians need to keep their marriage beds pure and when they don’t I will continue to point out the hypocrisy. This includes my own behavior.
I have seen the arrogance of some who say they follow Jesus. Some make stances about not shopping at a department store because a commercial may have a gay actress. This is stupid! Why was there not the same outcry when the exact same actress was the spokesperson for a make-up company? Beware of hypocrisy and those with idle hands.
I have heard the venom of the self-righteous’ harsh words and I am ashamed of them. I have seen the haughtiness. For whatever reason some Christians have labeled your lifestyle a greater sin. I don’t know why but I don’t believe it. In the same way that I don’t represent them, they do not represent me. I value you as a person, just as Jesus would. He loved and with passion pursued those who were outcast by the religious leaders of the day.
Some of you with whom I have shared close conversation tell me that there was never a time you felt “not gay.” I believe you. I do believe you when you say there was never a time you didn’t feel gay.
My Bible tells me that we were all born bearing a fallen nature. That means we were born separated from God because of sin and also born bearing sin. Just like you I, too, was born in sin. Again something you and me have in common. Each of us born into this world, deserving the wrath of a perfectly righteous God.
That is a difficult thought grasp for a lot of people because most of us are good people. Most everyone I know is a good person. I think I can safely say, just about everyone I know is good – in that they have manners, do good things, help people, try to get along with people where they work and live and want to help the needy. In general most people want to do the right thing and be a good person. But there is a difference between being a “good person” and being perfectly sinless, righteous and pure before God.
Even though I was a good person I was also a deviant. I was sexually perverse and immoral. I was even known to spin a good yarn (in other words I was a liar).
But I also know the change God gives. I can personally testify to how God, through great love, gives complete and utter change through new birth. I can tell you how He has changed my motives: that even though I am still tempted, just as Christ was, my full desire is to be obedient to Him, to cherish Him, to serve Him and to live sold out for Him.
I was not source of this change. I did not WILL myself to be righteous. I did not find it in a weekend seminar or self-help book. This New Birth comes from God and it is a complete gift.
I was not the only one to experience this change. I can tell you that there are MANY adulterers, homosexuals, thieves, drunkards and greedy people were CHANGED to then be NO LONGER any of those things.
So when businesses like Chick-Fil-A make a stand for traditional marriage based upon the facts that they are a Christian company and have been consistent with that stance by remaining married to their original spouse – don’t hate. When Joel Olsteen makes a stance to believe in what the Bible says – don’t hate. When Kirk Cameron confesses he has homosexual friends in his life yet reaffirms that homosexuality is not Biblical – don’t hate. Why is it that many of you scream so loudly for tolerance yet won’t tolerate others? Is not that hypocritical?
You see, I will outright proclaim, homosexuality is a sin. No matter how you try to twist the scriptures and find ways to justify it, it is a sin. That does not make me better than you. It puts us BOTH in the same category: IN NEED OF A SAVIOR.